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The Satiation Principle for Habit Change


Like most people, I walked around the city
with a hole inside of me. And although it hid from my view, it grew
and inflicted me with pain, so I felt its presence. I set out on a journey to fill it up. At first, I filled it with junk food. This worked for a short time, but it always
failed in the long run. Junk food went inside, partially sealed up
the hole, then fell out on the other side. And as a result, I always needed more. I ate another burger and drank another soda,
but I never felt full. Fat gathered around my stomach, my gut bred
bad bacteria, and my own body became a war zone—depression and self-loathing were the
norm. I was losing the battle, and I needed to change. So I imposed restrictive rules on myself. I stopped eating junk food and drinking pop,
but I never found a replacement for those behaviours. The hole inside of me grew and inflicted more
pain, and if I neglected it for any longer, it would have eaten me from the inside-out. So I reverted back to my old habits. I preferred to be partially filled and alive,
rather than empty, suffering, and eventually, dead. I tried adding new behaviours to my day. I went to the gym and ate plain chicken with
broccoli. Instead of leaving the hole wide open, I tried
to fill it with something different. I spent immense energy gathering new pieces,
but they were the wrong shape. They were shaped like squares, and as far
as I knew, the hole wasn’t. So again, I reverted back to my old habits. I asked myself deeper questions. What did I really want? What was the shape of the hole? And what did I think would fill it? After deep self-examination, I learned to
see its shape. At the time, I had taken on too many commitments. Stress entered my life and created the hole. Like a dragon, stress wreaked havoc on my
body. And instead of confronting it, I ran into
the castle of Junk Food and hid. And as long as I let the dragon roam, I never
would have been able to leave the castle. So I pulled the sword called Balance out of
the stone and slayed the dragon. I lowered my stress by cutting down on the
number of hours I worked. As my stress lowered, I found that my desire
for comfort foods vanished. I used the hours I had gained to cook healthy
and delicious alternatives, allowing me to meet my demands for energy. Balance was the piece I needed to fill the
hole. And for the first time, I felt sated. I felt full. I wasn’t deprived, and I didn’t need more. It felt like drinking a large glass of water
after a long run—a perfect harmony between the affliction, thirst, and the cure, water. As I grew older, new holes emerged, but my
process for dealing with them remained the same. I asked myself, “what is its shape?”,
“what do I think will fill it?”, and “when I get that thing, do I feel sated?” The marriage between my biology and my environment
gave a unique shape to every hole. And because of that, I never found a rulebook. Without knowing the unique shape of me, how
could anyone know what I needed? The process of change became individual and
unique. One man ate for pleasure. Another man ate to relive the comfort his
mother had provided. And another man ate to cope with the stresses
of poverty and parenting. The first man said, “change is easy”:
just stop. The second man said, “Change is hard, but
you must heal your mother complex.” But neither solution helped the third man. For each man, the hole took on a different
shape, and so the process by which they filled it was different. I recently came across a Czech fairy tale
called “The Wooden Baby.” In it, a husband and wife wished for a child,
but they were not able to have one. “You should be grateful,” said their neighbour. “You can hardly feed yourselves. How will you feed a baby? But one day, while out in the forest, the
husband discovered a stump that looked like a child. He brought it home, and it came to life. It begged for food, and so the mother made
it a meal. But after eating the meal, the baby was not
sated. It ate more and more, and eventually, it ate
its mother, father, and other members of the village. As the neighbour pointed out, the family lacked
wealth—not necessarily financial. Perhaps they lacked material, spiritual, philosophical,
psychological, or societal wealth. But the case remained, the poverty of the
parents passed on to the baby. And so the baby entered the world with a hole,
but it never found the thing that could have sated it. It consumed more and more and destroyed the
world around it. At the end of the tale, an old lady cut the
baby in half, freeing all the people inside. And so, the baby’s insatiable appetite led
to its own destruction. After I read the tale, I wondered how many
of my own holes were the result of the family, community, or nation I was born into. How deep did some of them go? How long ago were they first created? Could I even fill all of these up on my own? By failing to sate myself, how am I affecting
the people around me and those who will come after me? And how many holes have I created in others? As I discovered and filled each hole, I came
to believe this process could not be separated from uncovering and fulfilling one’s own
destiny. The journey to satiation, to wholeness, of
old and new habits, might all be the same—and they are all the quest of a lifetime. So I continue to ask myself, “what’s the
shape of the hole?”, “what do I think can fill it?”, “when I get that thing,
do I feel deprived, or do I need more and more?”, or
in other words, “do I feel sated?”

67 thoughts on “The Satiation Principle for Habit Change

  1. The way to change a bad habit is to build a good habit on top of it rather than eliminating it completely.
    Instead of eliminating it completely. Let the change be gradual.

  2. Some people eat to live.
    Others, live to eat.
    As with everything else, food cannot be an external solution for internal problems.

  3. Fantastic Video! Really goes to show that every one of us is individual and has different needs. What might work for one person, doesn't work somebody else. So go on a journey to discover yourself and find out what works for you!

    Have a fantastic day and always strive to become Your Best Self ❤️🙏🏻

  4. The wooden baby story reminds me of another story from the manga Monster, that's titled 'Monster with no name'.

  5. Why the videos are coming soo late?… I'll complain to your parents for late coming… U r late comers… Now, stand with ur hands waving in the air for 10 minutes and chanting "yes, I'm late comer"

  6. I remember reading a book like this from elementary school. The only difference was the baby was made from clay and it grew bigger than houses as it ate more and more people and eventually a goat killed it with it's horns freeing the people.

  7. 5:16 exactly that's my current hole

    I totally don't fit my current environment , I tried changing or fixing it , didn't work
    I tried to adapt to it , but found that it would lead me to a different path that i don't want to take
    my only option is to move to a different environment , but unfortunately that would require a lot of effort , I can afford the effort , but the environment keeps robbing me from the motivation to do the effort , it's looking to the right and left at the same time

    what's your advice ?

  8. I think the hole will always be there, but how we fill it, is determined by how we live. And I read somewhere that " at the end we only have each other to fill our empty space".

  9. Summary:

    Whenever we find ourselves in painful emptiness, we must first ask ourselves this: "What is the shape of my pain?". For we might mistaken the pain of excess, for the pain of scarcity. An observance of the shape of our pain leads to a more accurate diagnosis and ultimately to a correct treatment.

    The importance of this introspection lies in complex nature of our being. We can hurt for different reasons so one man's panacea is another man's dead-end. Through a careful dissection of our past experiences (relationships, upbringing, etc.) and present state we can discern the shape of our need.

    Like the story of the wooden baby who inherited its parents untreated ''holes'' and thereby afflicted its surroundings. Who's fault is it? Either way, the baby ended up cut in half.

    Subscribe to my music channel for introspective music.🎧

  10. So I'd like a #6 but can I get a whole bunch of extra balance on the side… I'm tryina watch my gaping hole at the moment

  11. This made me think of the wooden heart in Attenborough's "Magic." 🙂
    JC sang that wishing upon a star changed the wooden boy.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pguMUFyJ3_U

  12. Thankyou so much for these Amazing explanation and 🔥🔥I'm so Grateful for this ,and 😄✌️I also wanted to know how long does it tooks you to make it's script? Does it took you days or hours ? plz your any Anwer will be appreciated 😄☺️😊😊

  13. I've tried that healthy life for years and then also have tried more than a dozen different antidepressants during the past 4 years and they helped me to control all of my symptoms, but anhedonia.

  14. Man i so love your videos like I seriously cry watching them by how beautiful the animations are and your incredibly calm and beautiful voice and music. Please keep doing these animations they really help me understand myself❤️

  15. But what if that hole is what give us the desire to live… I mean the feeling if adequacy is what motivate change & action right..

    And at the moment we feel satiated, what will motivate us…

  16. I’ve been struggling with one hole, but I can’t seem to find what can fill it. Maybe, I suppose, some holes cannot be filled right now, and I have to push through? Maybe the time will come and I will finally fill it later on in my life? Eh…

  17. "stopped drinking pop"

    me – hm, well there's your problem, maybe next time you should try to stop drinking soda instead

  18. It's your soul telling you to turn to it's creator. Because the only one who can truly satisfy your heart is the ONE who created it 🙂 you can start with Islam to know your true purpose of life i.e to worship the Almighty God and not join anyone in his service.

    Almighty God also says:
    “God is He Who raised the heavens without any pillars you can see. Then He rose above the Throne. He subjected the sun and the moon each running for a term appointed. He regulates the affair, explaining the signs in detail that you may believe with certainty in the meeting of your Lord.”
    (Quran 13:2)

  19. Shapes are ever unique, chemistry feels clear tho: holes are built (of lack) of dopamine.

    Not that this makes it simple to discover &fulfil /remove it, i'm just pointing fingers at one of mechanisms of life..

  20. Hi, I am from Czech and the storry is really popular here, it even got a full movie "Otesánek" by Jan Švankmajer. In ENG it's called "Little Otik". You will miss some jokes and puns due to the subtitles, miss some cultural references and stereotypes, but the core philosofical questions stays intact. In many languages you can find it here: https://easterneuropeanmovies.com/drama/little-otik

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