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Verdict Is In: These Are The Hardest Years Of Your Life!


No one can predict for certain what will be
the hardest years of your life because no one knows what calamities might befall you. Nonetheless, there are plenty of studies that
tell us most people face certain obstacles in life that all tend to happen at certain
times. We are sure you’ve heard of the mid-life
crisis, or perhaps teenage angst, or those trying times in early adulthood when people
need to grow-up, get a job, and take responsibility for themselves. Then there are the vagaries of old age. The specter of debilitating arthritis, incurable
diseases, knowing the Grim Reaper is checking Google Maps to find out how to get to your
house. Today we’ll look at when most people face
the most difficulties, in this episode of the Infographics Show, What will be the hardest
years of your life? We’ll start with the easiest years. There can be no doubt that the easiest years
of life are those just after you are born. We can’t call these your hard years as there
isn’t really a sense of YOU. You are developing a sense of self, or an
ego. We won’t argue with psychologists, however,
that suffering trauma as a young child might have an effect on the development of that
child. Some kids are beaten badly by their parents
even as infants, and studies show that beaten children are more likely to develop mental
health problems. This might be anxiety, depression, inability
to empathize with others or they might be more likely to abuse drugs. If you’ve seen our serial killer shows,
you’ll know many of those crazed killers grew up with violent parents. However, as we said, as you haven’t quite
developed a sense of you, these years are still easy-sailing. When the ego gets going, so do your problems. That’s when the trauma kicks in. That said, when you truly know yourself, accept
who you are, and even accept your mortality, life can become quite easy. That’s why a lot of people say life gets
easier once you get out of the middle-age years. As one person writes on his blog, “I am
closing in on 71, though I am told I do not look it. I certainly don’t feel it. I am one that believes in the importance in
continuous learning and trying lots of new things. You are never too late to start. I started writing this blog at 64.” Getting old gracefully really depends on what
you’ve set up for yourself and also includes a lot of luck. If you’re broke, without friends, have no
hobbies or even ambitions, then old age can be a drag. You might find yourself a grumpy old person
in a home next to a Grampa Simpson-like neighbor. Listen to the wise words of American novelist,
Henry Miller, who started writing late and wrote essays on living a meaningful life when
he was in old age. Miller once said, “The moment one gives
close attention to anything, even a blade of grass it becomes a mysterious, awesome,
indescribably magnificent world in itself. The aim of life is to live, and to live means
to be aware, joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware.” If you kept fit throughout life, especially
the middle years, stayed curious and kept learning, saved a bit of cash, old age can
be far easier than those years when you never stopped needing things and every day was a
fight for survival. Hopefully, you’ll be one of those old folks
that tells tales of a full life, and not through a machine connected to your once-cancerous
neck. Now we get to the harder years. The teenage years come next. Teens may gripe a lot about life, but anyone
who has been through those years knows they are generally easier than what’s coming,
i.e. taking full responsibility for yourself. The problem with these years is they start
with you trying to deal with the pecking order and finish with teens trying to deal with
the transition to become adults. It all depends on how you grow up. It’s no fun being poor as a teen and dealing
with kids at school bullying you for it. One day, if you hold in there, you will have
the power to become who you want, but teens generally are not able to escape whatever
reality they know. These are the years that bad parenting really
hurts, when some kids run away from home, when they are old enough and have enough awareness
to realize things are not right at home. For these teens life is a minefield, and we
can see that in suicide rates. Young kids generally don’t take their own
lives, but then in the teens the rate gets much higher. Kids have to deal with life, and deal with
who they are. Still, the teen years show easily the lowest
suicide rate for all stages of a life after pre-teen, in the USA at least. Most kids, after all, don’t deal with daily
beatings and abuse at home. Even kids with ‘caring’ parents can get
stressed by parents’ expectations. Spoiled kids on the other hand may think they
have it easy, but things will get hard in adulthood for someone who has always got what
they wanted. Psychology Today simply says, “The spoiled
person is discontented… Such a person is unhappy, and it falls to
parents to prevent their child from growing up this way.” They are tricky years, but in the end, someone
generally has your back. One teen girl said, “Social status matters
so much today, and it’s all about how you handle yourself on social media.” So, yes, you’ll have to fight through pecking
orders, traverse the minefield of other kids and their taunts, but most kids, generally
all kids, face this without insurmountable problems. You’ll also see your body has changed, and
those hormonal shifts can bring pimples to your face and put you in bad moods. You’ll be nervous no doubt about a first
kiss, about making love, about becoming a man or a woman, but again, everyone has to
go through this and generally these fears are easily overcome. Enjoy it while you can, because life is going
to get harder. The next stage is from the age of around 30-45. You’re are not yet middle-aged, but certainly
are over your growing pains. These are the years when you’ll likely find
a career path, when you might get married and have children of your own, when you might
get divorced, when, if you had a bad childhood, you might come to terms with that. It’s also the age things might fall apart. When you watch your friends succeed. When you are inundated with photos on Facebook
showing perfect happy marriages, your long-lost buddies travelling the globe, them sporting
the best new clothes and driving flashy cars. You’re still wondering where everyone went,
downing a Xanax and vodka in your one-bedroom flat listening to 90s music while measuring
your receding hairline. This can be a trying time. One thing for you now to know is you must
move on. It’s time to leave the cocoon of youth and
become a butterfly. So, what if you didn’t get married or don’t
have the best job in the world. Don’t get down looking at how others live,
you must change yourself. You are not too old to start something new. If you don’t have kids, see that as a reason
to do all the things people with kids cannot do. Ok, so your school buddy is rich, but he works
long hours at an office in the rat race. Is that always a good thing? Do nice cars make people happy? You’ll find the answer is no. Surviving these years is all about accepting
change, accepting the loss of youth, and adapting to your future. Sure, these years are hard because many people
just can’t cope with this. On the other hand, people may be stuck in
an unhappy marriage or a job they hate – they won’t always admit that. That’s no reason to roll over and hit the
Prozac as many people do during this stage of life. It’s reason to dig in and make some changes. It’s the time you embrace the adage, “Carpe
Diem”, “Seize the Day.” The next stage is what we might call middle-age,
from 45-60. Maybe you didn’t make those good decisions
we just talked about; you just stayed in the bad job, the terrible marriage; you kept hitting
the booze and let yourself go physically. These are the years when most people take
their own lives. It all depends on how you set this time up. If you lived an unhealthy life and didn’t
take care of yourself these are also the years you can expect to see some results related
to that insalubrious living. Bad knees, replaced hips, off the chart cholesterol,
blood sugar in the red, missing teeth and a lower back that can’t support you without
an unfashionable brace. You are also at that stage where you will
have to accept you are entering into the twilight years. That doesn’t mean you can’t run marathons,
but it might mean slowing down. Yep, we’ve all heard of the guys that buy
Harley Davidson motorcycles during this stage of life, not knowing how to adapt to these
years. Psychologists tell us it’s during this stage
we face “Generativity” or “Stagnation”. The former means giving, teaching others,
even creating works of art or business manuals that might teach others. You have a lot to give, and now you are less
selfish, work for the betterment of the majority. Stagnation means just that, getting to this
stage and not contributing anything to anyone. Feeling worthless or irrelevant. Lots of people turn to therapy at this stage
in their lives. Our advice is to try not to become so self-absorbed. You can’t stop this passing of time. Hair transplants or fake breasts or new cars
are temporary fixes, but the roots of your soul will still be infused with discontent. You have to give out, not give up; focus not
only on YOU, but how you can make other people’s lives better. The hardest part of being alive? Well, we are told that it is the twenties,
or perhaps the period between the very late teens and the early thirties. This period doesn’t have the highest suicide
rate, but the 20s can be a very testing time. Most people are thrown out of the nest and
are told to literally get a life. They have the burden of responsibility. While many studies suggest the university
years can be easy, let’s remember some people don’t go to uni. Those that do will likely graduate in their
early twenties anyways. Psychology Today writes, “What seems bewildering
or insurmountable when we are twenty is usually much less threatening when we are forty and
may be a breeze when we are sixty. I am talking about the heart, mind, and spirit
– not the body.” These are the years you have to fight, and
you’ll get little respect from others. You are too old to be mollycoddled by your
parents, but embarrassingly you can’t quite stop needing their help. You’re like a badly-made grown-up, on the
outside things look normal but on the inside you don’t function properly yet. You’ve still got nagging parents; you’ve
got debt, you have little self-control, and because of that you’re likely to do many
stupid things on many occasions. You are just not fully-formed, at least your
brain isn’t. You have freedom, but you don’t know how
to handle it. Studies have shown that when older people
were asked what stage of life was the hardest most said the 20s, a stage they really wouldn’t
want to go through again if by some miracle it was possible. We guess for other wild animals this is the
stage when the young ones have to fend for themselves. They are just not very good at it yet. Few people are masters of anything in their
twenties, even if they deny it. The twenties are also a time of big egos,
which in turn can lead to hubris and depression in the thirties, when they discover their
brilliance wasn’t a reality. You’ll need good support networks. You’ll need self-control lest your freedom
backfire on you. Reign-in your powers and harness your strengths. You are Spiderman before he can use his superpowers
correctly. It helps to meditate a bit on who you are
and what you want in life, and talk to others about that. Now’s the time those mid-lifers should be
doing what they are supposed to be doing and giving back; helping you out, or even writing
the books or blogs that lessen your confusion and pain. So, what have been the most trying years for
you? What do you think will be the hardest period? Let us know in the comments. Also, be sure to check out our other video
called Why You Will Never Be Rich. Thanks for watching, and as always, don’t
forget to like, share and subscribe. See you next time.

100 thoughts on “Verdict Is In: These Are The Hardest Years Of Your Life!

  1. 1. Name the stage of your life you're currently in.
    2. Give me an advice what one must do in this stage to be able to say in the future: "I did it properly!"

  2. Can you make a video on how to avoid the middle-age health issues you mentioned (bad knees, replaced hips, off the chart cholesterol, blood sugar in the red, missing teeth, and a bad lower back?

  3. I'm a teenager now, and my anxiety is just so annoying. I don't have too many friends, but I don't really care because I'm an introvert. But I guess I just have to live the best I can now.

  4. 26-29 was a rough time for me. I’m currently 29 crossing over to 30 and it’s rough. Establishing yourself as a professional in the workplace after years of schooling is not easy.

  5. Maybe I am the minority but when I was in my 20s those were the best years of my life..(at least so far) I had way more time back then.

  6. Happiness near the end of life when you aren't struggling for day by day needs. So…retirement then. When you don't have to work day in, day out just to survive. I just started on my retirement savings. But I still make garbage pay. Hopefully, things will be more fruitful for me when Im 70+.

  7. I was beaten as a young child by an abusive father and mentally manipulated and tortured by my mother. Life was harder when I was young and as a teenager when I had no freedom. At 18 years old I ran, got my first job (telemarketing) hated the verbal abusive people give over the phone so I'm never rude to people in those positions, and I traded jobs to be a wild land firefighter, then a video store clerk (then the time of video stores was ending) I decided to go to community college and learn a trade (something I already enjoyed) cooking. I've never owned a car so I've walked great distances, between cities, to and from college while I was in college I would work 1-2 part time jobs, until 1 laid me off and I got a grant to go to school the college loaded my up with 38 credits in 1 quarter because Uncle Sam was flipping the bill. I graduated with debt because of the loans I took out, my friend who was my mentor paid off all of my college loans and died a couple years later and here I am working 9-12 hr days with decent pay doing what I love (sometimes) I'm the jack of all trades so I'll do jobs in the kitchen I'm not fond of but just because it's necessary. I met a woman I love, I got sterilized cause I knew my lifestyle would never allow time for children, I'm trying hard to take care of my health by eating better and working out, I've been Obese (215 lbs) and I've been sick thin (145 lbs) I'm 5 ft 10 in for reference.
    I'm 25 years old and I think of my 20s as each year being independent (I've been fully independent even if I was homeless) since I was 18 and each year is better than the last year. I'm looking forward to more years to come.

  8. I agree the 20's were a nightmare for me. I did NOT have a big ego. I was kind polite and sweet. I was open to others and empathetic. When you work in an office and forced to interact with perverts and pathetic sad desperate insecure women you become the target of harassment, people accusing you of being a know it all with out even talking to you, and other bullying. What made it worse is that I look younger than I am. Now I am 33 and see people for what they are I viciously defend myself! Still looking much younger than I am, the entire time they are targeting, berating and antagonizing someone they think is in their early 20's, but then when I finally make my move and open my mouth and forcefully pursue them legally THEN their mouths drop open with surprise…. just a bunch a sad sick [email protected]$ walking this planet. I would like to be the bait and be able to fish out the people who are looking to prey on younger people because they think they can… these people need fished out and thrown out of society!

  9. I’m currently in my 20s, work three jobs, go school, try to balance relationships and a social life. I found the best way to deal with stress is telling yourself what you’re going through is only temporary and it’s not as serious as you think

  10. i am 23 right now and i can confirm that it has been hard in terms of becoming a mature man rather than tiny infant

  11. I was odd my life was hardest for me at 14-19. I had to help my family and had horrible bullies in my life. Living on my own has been the easiest.

  12. Being a adult is not living with your parents. Can you imagine paying 80,000 for a education for your kid and they want to move back in with you? I'm a tuff love Dad, Get a job and a girlfriend loser. Oh, and Stop calling my wife asking for money. Mid 40s is a headache and a half. I blame my wife for the tarded kid.

  13. My teenage years were extremely hard, just me and my mom, no dad, no siblings or other family. My mother worked alot and made me feel bad for needing things so i stopped asking. Im currently in the "every day is a struggle" phase, and have a child of my own. Im determined to let him always know he's a great addition, not a hindrance.

  14. How about a Mexican in his 20s that when he stepped in the U.S. he turned 2 yrs old. Over 23 yrs now he's here and without papers but yet… has his mom at home and he's paying all the bills.

  15. I am currently a 15 year old as of right now and I’m definitely not normal adhd has a toll on my thinking I have come to terms that I will die and how life will also be hard but mental health for me has not changed and I think it’s because of environment, everyone complaining and just being tired gives off a toxic atmosphere so if any teens are reading this I recommend, meditation, have peace the fact that you will die, laugh a lot even if it’s fake, and try to stop complaining about everything

  16. It's a bit revealing to know that more people feel this way in their twenties. I was so worried about dealing with life in the future when I already find it so hard at the moment 😛

  17. 26 now, no point in sight

    Nothng about any other stage of life is appealing

    I'm no different than I was when I was 15, just more of a will to follow through with hurting myself. I wish I wasn't so lucky, I ended up with too many people that care about me =-_-=

  18. My early 20's were difficult. Tried college racked up debt. Was almost homeless, ramen for every meal. 24 I took a risk and went to trucking school where now 3 years later, my life has never been better.

  19. I'm in my early 20s and going to uni. I think it is super hard because I just think of where my life is going right now. Do I want to study more after I graduate? Do I get a job I hate? I don't earn enough to pay my tuition fees.

    It's just like constant confusion but also a time where you can have the most fun because of the freedoms you have. Drinking, smoking etc. Being treated as an adult isn't that bad, it's very liberating for me since I never wanted to listen to my parents as a teen lol.

  20. For 98.9% of us would make as much of a difference to the world if we died right now than if we lived out our entire lifespans.Think about that.

  21. 'teenage angst'?? 'angst' means 'fear' in dutch, but is that also what it means fear in your teenage years? 😅

  22. Man from the ages 12 till now 16 I’ve been living by my self since my mom is at work 24/7 btw we still broke but besides that having real problems shouldn’t be an excuse to being a bad person

  23. I believe that I have lived my life backwards.

    My childhood years were my worst years.

    I am a teen now (late teen) and I feel that now that I have a better pathway for my life and a true passion for my dreams, it can only get better from here.

    But nothing – I hope – nothing could be any worst than my childhood.

  24. worst part of my life was probably when I was 12 since I was in a coma then from bacterial meningitis.

  25. Personally I believe life is generally supposed to be hard. However, what makes me cope with that reality and actually be happy about my life, is the simple acceptance that everything ends regardless of how you live your life, rich or poor, sad or happy, married or unmarried…..life is bound to end. It's a somber thought, but it helps to cope with failure and avoid depression.

    My best advice is to be happy no matter what happens and to keep doing your best. Life isn't perfect and neither are you. It's a fact you have to accept to live happily.

  26. Teens have it bad because of social pressures. 20s are bad because now you are either studying non stop to get into a job that will afford you a a basic house or you just enter the work force immediately and have roommates forever and a day cause THAT job doesn't pay enough to survive.

  27. I was that lucky kid at school who always had money cause I had a job at 14 (family owns a business). Still work there today.

  28. childhood and teen years were a lot harder than my current years in adulthood. The major difference? As an adult, I have more control of what I do and what happens to me, unlike being a kid and having to act like an adult without any real power over my situation.

  29. In my early life, I thought my future was going to be as bright and as cheerful as my childhood. I'm now 15, and now I've come to realize that my future might not be all that cheerful, unfortunately.

  30. I’m currently in my mid 20’s and I swear I couldn’t had watched this video at a better time with me being out of work, moms hounding when I’m giving my all smh …. and I thought I was the only person going through this. I watched a lot of your vids, but this one right here is inspirational to me smh As of late I’ve been in a real funk , seems like everyday has been the same but sometimes Idk what to do 😢 I just gotta keep at it ….. Thanks Kid !!!!!! Love and respect

  31. This is surprising heavy. As a 25-year old, Im still torn if I'm on the right track or I'm just forcing things to work out for me. Eventually, everything will work out.

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